Understand People With Anxiety
Anxiety; its definition goes as a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.
If has is has ever occurred to you, then you know that there’s more to anxiety than this simple one-lined definition?
Thinking of anxiety as merely a state of worry or nervousness actually, causes a disillusionment about the seriousness of this state.
Anxiety is like a smoke monster, it lurks behind the anxious person that other cannot see. These feelings make their heartbeat quickens and head go akimbo.
It’s irrational, but it’s paralyzing–
Just because we know that worrying about a particular thing is not beneficial or the reason behind one’s nervousness is idiotic, doesn’t mean that it is not an inhibiting factor in their day-to-day proceeding.
While we casually ridicule this behaviour and just as quickly ask them to – Calm Down, we neglect the fact that fact that for an anxious person, anxiety could be gripping.
A lot of their life happens inside their head.
We tend to compare the anxiety with which we are mostly accustomed to with theirs. The nervousness we feel before interviews are not the same as the nervousness anxious people feel. Comparing them is like comparing a mountain and a feather.
They are not out-castes –
Anxiety doesn’t make someone abnormal. The fact that you take a U-turn every time you see an anxious person coming your way creates a negative effect on them.
This particular act might lead them to feel stranded and they might actually want to return into their cocoon instead of coming out of it. Just because their behaviour and thoughts are a little different from ours, doesn’t classify them as outlaws. All they need is a little understanding and empathy.
Just because their behaviour and thoughts are a little different from ours, doesn’t classify them as outlaws. All they need is a little understanding and empathy.
They aren’t rude to you –
Most of the time, if you are kind enough to approach an anxious person to befriend him, he will not be able to talk to you upfront. Chances are, he might abruptly skirt away instead of replying to you.
It naturally looks like a rude act and you might feel – ‘I’ll never talk to that person again.’ Though it does look rude, but was never intentional, the truth is, you caught them off guard.
Their anxiety took control of them and the best possible way for them to prevent this anxiety to rise any further is to walk away. Next time, try to understand their perspective as well.
Honestly, anxious people are not anti-social nerds as we inappropriately think of them to be. They are as much flesh and bones, as we are, and thus deserve the same level of respect and understanding.
Before judging them, stepping in their shoes and understanding the true reason behind their anxiety. Don’t consider them weak, try to uplift them.
Anxiety just needs you to support him, let him remind that he is not alone, respect his isolation. Understand him even when he strips away from you. Consider, it’s not your job to fix his anxiety, love him the way he is.